How can I get this a**hole to start listening to me and follow the rules?

Question

Ok so I'm in marching band. It is actually a very disciplined and focused sport ( yes I said sport.) and we even have a certain way we have to stand. There are five positions. Trill- our horn is at our side. Standby- we hold our horns in front of us ( think of military and we they say adis and they put there hands together) Adis- stand however . Set- we hold our horn up vertical from the ground. And playing ( obvious) and also there is a very strict rule that we are not allowed to talk when the director is talking ( or really at all haha) and so I'm a junior. I know all the rules. But there is this sophomore who does whatever he wants! He never stands right and even when the director is talking, he's behind me talking about nude scenes with a freshman! We have a thing called section leaders and they are in charge of an instrument section ( like clarinet section, sax section etc) and they are students as well but they are just tolerating him! I may not be a section leader but I do know that I have seniority over underclass men ( not so much I can make them do stuff but they have to consider things I say) and I politely tell him to shush because the dir is talking and he goes " f*ck you!" And goes back to talking! I've asked a section leader ( from another section cause I don't want this to turn into some huge thing) what I can do about this and they have no idea. I've already told a drum major ( student conducter) about a past thing he did so I don't want to tell them and the director does like having to deal with immature stuff like this so he leaves it to dm and sl. Any idea what I should do???

Answer 1

Stop being polite. don't "shush" him. Turn around and yell at the top of your voice, "would you two guys shut the hell up?, I can't hear the director!!!"



You can't be the arbiter of behavior unfortunately. There will always be dumbasses in High School. The director I'm sure sees it or at least how crappy he performs in marching, If it's a class, then he'll get a bad grade.



you need to speak to the director, whether he want to deal with stupid crap or not. That's his job.



You also should just try to ignore him. Trying to act like a goody two-shoes and getting mad at him because he doesn't follow the rules is a no-win situation. If he is saying things about explicit sex, tell the director that he is saying inappropriate things about sex and that you are uncomfortable with it. They will have to deal with as a sexual harassment situation and remove him or suspend him. (of course it will probably get your *** kicked) But try to get moved to another area in your section away from him. Other than that you can't do anything. If the director doesn't care then you shouldn't either.

As long as his poor marching doesn't cost you a competition, just forget it. Life's to short to be worrying about idiots who don't do what they are supposed to.



It the parent's fault for not spanking kids anymore. Kids need to have their butts spanked when they misbehave. Today's youth are uncontrolled sociopaths who face no consequences for misbehaving.

Why should he care? Nothing's going to happen to him.....right?

Answer 2

I don't know if you're in the same section as this talkative kid who annoys you, but if so, you should talk to the leader of your section, not some other random section leader with no authority over this kid. (As for not wanting this to turn into some huge thing, it already has, thanks to you involving other people outside your section). Your section leader should be the one enforcing the rules, not you (your "seniority" over underclassmen notwithstanding) -- especially if the director doesn't want to deal with immature trivia and has delegated these things to the section leaders .



And then, if the section leader declines to take any action -- and the director doesn't notice or care -- that's it. You've done what you can. Suck it up, ignore the talkative one in the ranks and concentrate on what YOU have to do for Marching Band. Otherwise, you come across as a bratty, immature tattle-tale.

Answer 3

Marching band is not a sport. Many things in life require discipline, but that does not make them sports.